My answer before I read all the answers and saw I slightly misinterpreted the question – I do a lot of thinking and research ahead of time and know exactly what I want to point out and prioritize what questions I want to ask and then I make sure to speak up. I didn’t used to be like that. My H went to the doctor and never asked the specific thing he wanted to know about when he made the appointment and when I asked why not he said he started with some minor things and chit chat and then the doctor seemed ready to leave.
I do like the FP doctor I finally found a couple of years ago after my previous doctor went concierge and a couldn’t afford it and there aren’t a lot of drs especially taking new patients in the area where I live. But he’s young and I do feel like I have to guide him. He does like to print out info from the internet and explain things in more detail than I may need. When he was recently removing a sebaceous cyst from my back he asked if I wanted to see what he removed. That was a quick, loud “NO!!” from me.