<p>“Do you think that lots of journalism jobs are gone for good”</p>
<p>And of course, my freshman D just decided on journalism. This is making me wonder what folks are telling their kids about finding summer jobs. I THINK I’d be ok with a non-paid internship in journalism, in spite of what it means for current and future earnings. We are in a bay area suburb. Any thoughts?</p>
<p>I love the big fat Sunday paper, I love the printed real paper. But in a cost savings move, when my parents moved to my town and began taking the paper, I canceled mine and read theirs with a delay, though I will go out and buy the Sunday paper.</p>
<p>I will miss the newspaper when they are gone.</p>
<p>Any one who is an avid reader who cannot figure out the appeal of the kindle? I want to turn the pages, I don’t need another screen in my life!</p>
<p>We are self-employed, have been forever. Because we work on commissions and because the results are to a great part out of our control we have lived frugally. </p>
<p>Our mortgage has not been decreased as much as it should have the past ten years as we have been paying tuition, but we have one who finished UG, one graduating in the spring and one with another year. I cannot wait to breathe again- unless they all move home and we are too squeezed to breathe, since we already downsized.</p>
<p>Our property taxes are our only scary fixed cost as they can still be going up and unlike some states ours has no limit.</p>
<p>We made all possible frugal adjustments 10 years ago to afford tuition. I feel like every one has joined me. All the stores I have always gone to seem busier than ever, I guess every one else has stepped down ;)</p>
<p>Our business has a time lag, just now getting paid for work from the fall, since the market first crashed in Sept and I am doing okay (not amazing, but okay) I am trying to stay optimistic about the future. Optimistic for stable not great money.</p>
<p>I avoid the news as much as possible, I cannot affect it, I don’t want to be traumatised by it. My retirement accounts stink (and for the first time in many years, I put the money into them in January of last year, at the beginning of the period, instead of waiting until the end and now I have half or less!!</p>
<p>I checked into a refi, but the news fees & points made me not proceed as I am not sure how long I will stay here and it would take 3-5 years to be money ahead.</p>
<p>Somemom, I am a big-time reader, and I think the Kindle would just be added stress for me. I always carry a book with me, in case I have to wait for any reason. If I were to lose the book, no problem. If I were to lose the Kindle, I’d be upset. </p>
<p>Also, I already own the books that I love, and often reread them. I wouldn’t appreciate paying for them yet again through an electronic reader. </p>
<p>We still get two daily newspapers delivered to our house. I am enjoying print media while it lasts.</p>
<p>Shrinkrap, we are also in the bay area, and while ANY internship is better than NO internship, can she look for an unpaid job in some growing hitech company- like facebook- or a multimedia company? Just a thought.</p>
<p>Thank you for starting this topic. I find that hearing how others are handling their stress is giving me alot of new ideas. I actually told my husband yesterday, that when he comes home, I want him to give me the best hugs of his life, and I’ll give them back. Its amazing, because neither of us are really very demonstrative, most of the time. I can’t beleive that in 2 days, we are already closer and talking more, all because of hugs, lol. We have also, made a decision to be 100% honest with each other, about our fears, hopes, dreams etc. It turns out, that after him having a heart attack, there were tons of things he hadn’t been telling me about what was going on in his business. I made him sit down and spell it all out, and I’m not surprised he had a heart attack!! I almost had one myself, but turns out mine was an anxiety attack…way easier to handle. I knew that my husbands partner had “early onset” of alzheimers, but I had no idea that it passed the early stage. My h has been trying to cover both of their positions for the last year. We, both couples went to our account yesterday, and his partner was oblivious. He has no clue about whats really happening. Thats where I found out that his wife has set up a Trust account for him. YIKES!! I was in shock, about how much my husband hadn’t told me. I know his heart was in the right place, he was being protective…but his brain was in the wrong place! I’ve always been able to help him out of tough spots, and at least when I understand what is really happening, I can offer him some real solutions, instead of…oh, just remember this will pass…at least we have each other, blah blah…things that are meaningless to someone who is very worried and scared.</p>
<p>Again, I’m just grateful that we literally just finished paying off both kids tuition. If nothing else, we provided a wonderful start on their education…and they are going out debt free.</p>
<p>How I handle this stress? I come to CC every single day, a dozen times a day…(when I can)…I have many favorites who’s posts I can’t wait to read. You are all awesome parents and people, and I sincerely hope things work out ok for each and everyone one of you. Some have more difficult hurdles then others. Maybe it takes a village to keep the village alive? lol…Thats what CC is, a mini village of people trying to keep one another going in a positive direction.</p>
<p>Thanks all, for letting me blab when I feel like I’m gonna burst.:)</p>
<p>papegena … you are one courageous lady and I salute you.</p>
<p>And you CAN always come here and get a hug … or read happy thread .</p>
<p>And I think it helps a lot.</p>
<p>Major hugs going out {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}</p>
<p>Papagena,
Yes, CC can be so very therapeutic… Glad you are finding it so helpful.
Glad,too, your H is coming home soon. That’s great news. However, as for his partner’s early onset Alzheimers (assuming it isn’t a different type of dementia)… sadly the earlier the onset, usually the more rapid and dramatic the decline. Please plan accordingly.</p>
<p>Thanks guys. Well my husband has been home for a week, and feels much better, despite the stress. His partners alzhiemer’s is progressing rapidly. My aunt had it a few years ago, and we saw how quickly it can progress. At first it seem like the meds were able to slow the P’s, decline…but, not so.</p>
<p>I give a hug back to everyone here who cares about those struggling, and for those who are struggling…for those who are ok, I hope you stay that way.
Prayers to all</p>
<p>Hugs are awesome, even cyber-hugs!</p>
<p>Segue alert!</p>
<p>I read an article today about the importance of, umm, (blushing) intimate matters in this difficult time, particularly to men who may have lost their jobs.</p>
<p>geez Zoos, you stole my post! How do I deal with stress? I try to run 3 or 4 times a week and try to schedule frequent sessions of “relaxation therapy” with the wife. 
I also try not to watch too much CNBC, but that is hard because I daytrade. My sources of stress these days are fairly trivial because fortunately we have the basics covered: The immediate family is healthy and doing well and we have a nice home and have a little bit of financial breathing room at the moment.</p>
<p>I just want to say thanks to those who suggested PhotoShop ideas for us for our D. We talked to her last night and she said she decided to do her project on a friends computer. If she decides to major in art then we’ll pony up the money for the software, but for one project it makes sense to just mooch off a friend. Phew.</p>
<p>One thing that stresses me out is how will she find a summer job in this economy?</p>
<p>Those jobs are out there - for summer at least. Network. DS is going on interviews now for summer - one at a mechanics’/auto body shop. Business for them seems to be solid. Never did I think that’s where he would go, but he picked up our car there, got to talking with the owner, and viola, they were looking for a phone/desk person. That’s good news here, because the extra landscaping work he’s done previously is going to dry up in this economy - people will mow their own lawns, but it is the rare soul that can fix his/her own busted car bumper.</p>
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That’s good to hear.</p>
<p>Most of us take pleasure in reading about good things for others even as we wait for improved circumstances for ourselves. Along that vein, Faline’s son (see post #96) has been awarded the prestigious Chancellor’s Scholarship at Vanderbilt - full ride!!!
Faline, hope you don’t mind me sharing your good news. Whether it’s a cupcake or a full ride scholarship, I think many of us are taking more pleasure in the good things that happen to us these days. In fact, I get a list of education related articles from the WSJ each Friday and that was the them of one of them.</p>
<p>thank you for being happy for my son and our own financial stressors, 2VU0609…I guess by your moniker our children will just miss each other…but anyone who put two in Vandy has tons to teach me. </p>
<p>We left Nashville twenty years ago right after a major and highly publicized tragedy and the death of my best friend there, which I won’t go into because it was so disturbing that I frankly would not want any of you to have to live through it or know the details…she was murdered. Of course there was no reference whatsoever to this traumatic event in my son’s application…I haven’t even told our son a word about her. She was both married and buried in the Scarritt Chapel on campus at Vandy, a graduate of the Vandy School of Nursing and someone who had served Nashville social service front line agencies for what years her short life allowed. She didn’t live long enough to have children…I had a baby of one year at the time. Within a year after this nightmare, we moved.
Anyway. I wept all day yesterday just thinking of her and realizing that we have an invitation to return to Nashville on a note of joy and with the opportunity to reconnect with our many friends working there, and an opportunity to see our very good-hearted son benefit from the synergy that takes place between Nashville and Vanderbilt.<br>
She was a very charming and warm person, and if such things are possible, I think she would want this return to Nashville to be a healing time for his parents and an exciting time for our son.</p>
<p>papengena: I admire your husband’s generosity and good intentions regarding his partner who is showing signs of Alzheimer’s. I ran the Alzheimers Support groups for years in Nashville, actually. jym626 is correct. Early onset equals fast course usually, so treat your colleague and his family within the context of a serious life threatening illness. Be proactive in sheltering your financial stability for him and for you.</p>