How many gays/ how prominent is the gay life at all of these LACs?

You should have Grinnell on this list. The President, Raynard Kingston, is gay, living with his partner on campus, and they are raising two kids together. It’s not ‘gay friendly.’ It’s ‘gay is a fact of life’, like blue or brown eyes. As my D at another school says, ‘coming out’ is so old-fashioned. No one cares. Live your life. I think the same is true on many of these LAC campuses these day.