First off, I want to commend the people on this thread who are thinking and planning for retirement. No need to get discouraged (sending an encouraging message to you @rockvillemom !), because you can improve your retirement situation by the things you do between now and then. Being able to adapt to the changing paradigm can help make the small and larger decisions that can make a difference in quality of life as you age.
There are many things that happen to all of us along the way that will impact our ability to retire or our retirement years - medical, having secured the right kind of insurance when able and available, paradigm changes with things out of our control like pension structure, company benefit changes, union changes, company sold and changes, etc. Instead of dwelling on what could have been, what others have, etc, look at what you can do today and moving forward to improve your situation.
Some on this thread are seeing retirees from some years ago doing better with their pension package, guaranteed low cost health insurance, etc. A HS classmate (now 59) was able to retire at age 50 with auto union benefits; she has since picked up doing PT work explaining union benefits to assist them in the process (and this works because they can trust her more than someone that was not in their shoes) - she has the personality, enjoys helping people, enjoys being productive (you can only golf so much) - lives in two states as snow bird.
H and my financial security will be best with H working until we both qualify for medicare (our birthdays are only a few months apart, which helps with that plan). So these last few years before retirement will pay off our home. We plan to downsize as we may want to live two places, near family at both.
H’s job security was key during my cancer treatment days - which began when I was 53 and kids were in 8th and 10th grades; we were limited with paying deductible and max family out of pocket costs for 4 years - which each year was less than one round of my chemo or IV treatment. In addition to multiple surgeries, I had 30 separate IV treatments which crossed 3 calendar years (16 chemo combinations - always had two drugs; additional 14 Herceptin which is a biologic drug which works great for her-2 positive breast cancer patients like me). Being declared cancer free after being in stage III disease was all we could hope for, and feel blessed - now to continue cancer free; made if 5 years and looking forward to 10+.
Everyone on this thread can do things to continue to stay healthy or do things to be healthier. It doesn’t guarantee longevity, but may reduce health care costs and improve quality of life.
Having enough money for living well enough. Some see moving to a area where their retirement dollars will stretch farther and perhaps better climate. Some of the best things are ‘free’ like having a positive attitude.
Some can and want to help their children/grandchildren in the ways they want and can.
H and I are just finishing up the financial areas (told H we need to set up a fund for each DD to use as they want - for wedding if and when that time comes, or however they want to use - since he only has brothers he failed to think about that $$ pot!) Our fund will no where be the wedding average (over $31,000 according to Time The Answers Issue July6 and 13 double issue). Looking to put that fund in place after we sell our primary residence - and maybe fund over 2 years to avoid gift tax. Loved the CC thread where the engagement party became the wedding party!