<p>I have one son who just graduated from college and one about to start. First son went to college 1000 miles from home. I did speak with him daily all 4 years. While he did complain, my feeling was in this day and age of crime etc I needed to know he was OK. On a college campus you can disapear for several days without being noticed. Roomates may feel it is not their responsibility to track you down when you stayed out at night. Professors are not going to call mom when you were missing from class etc. That is just the way I have my peace of mind. I didn’t stop caring /worring when you left for school.
Also my son’s college was notories for screwing around with students in the flight program to the point I almost had to sue them for breach of contract. They cut back on screwing with him. He completed his flight training and graduated. The majority of his fellow students who he started with are STILL there trying to catch up and finish. Had it not been for those daily phone calls advising him on how to deal with them and intervening when I had to, he would still be there as well. One size or situation does not apply to all. You have to go with what is right for your situation and relationship with your kid.
Second son will be going to a school only 95 miles away. I don’t anticipate issues with his school. He has never been much of a talker…Hi i am going here or there, be home late etc. and that is about it. I don’t expect I’ll get much more than that from him at school. I just need to know you are healthy and safe and I am OK. I expect he will drop by more often though since he is only a 1 hour train ride from home. He actually chose a close school so he could come home once in awhile. Time will tell…</p>