<p>Odessagirl hasn’t called since she left for school. But we do text and facebook each other. Pretty much everyday. But not always.</p>
<p>If my son calls it’s usually not good. We call on a regualar weekly basis and he seems receptive to that. If he calls it means he’s lost his glasses or debit card AGAIN.</p>
<p>This thread is really heartwarming to read =D Makes me want to call more often (or skype, international calls are expensive).</p>
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<p>oldfort - DS called me today, and we ran through a bunch of football player stats. DS was on the computer, and I was giving him names to look up. I actually laughed out loud because I thought of you and your DD shopping together on Fridays. I guess this is how DS and I “shop” on Fridays. :)</p>
<p>Actually, my older D has gotten into this fantasy football thing and roped her dad into a team in her “league.” It’s actually been quite the bonding thing. 1) we still arent sure why she now knows so much about all things football and 2) she’s kicking his butt.</p>
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Has she been dating a bunch of football players?</p>
<p>Cartera, apparently Girlyman has opened for Indigo Gals…I know nothing of the latter but read it on the Girlyman website.</p>
<p>A pair of their lines that nails relationships of a certain age & phase:</p>
<p>We could talk all night and still you’d feel this way
You can’t hear my words, you have too much to say</p>
<p>I’m afraid that I’d been on both ends of that one. And am <em>so</em> glad to have left that long behind.</p>
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<p>Sounds like the Elections and Politics forum.</p>
<p>See, I’ve weaned myself away from there but it’s a completely different feel than the personal relationship stuff. In the latter, one is looking to make a relationship work…at least I am…despite frustration. In the former, TheDad takes on the aspect of a samurai warrior. I have no illusions about reaching agreement with the opposition, just a drive to expose, collapse, and destroy positions, with inflicting pain in the process yielding bonus points. Which is why I weaned myself away, pretty much cold turkey. In that environment, I am not a nice person. Pretty much everywhere else, I am, even in disagreeing.</p>
<p>I call my mom like…twice a day :)</p>
<p>Usually only a 5 minute or so quick chat but still, I know it reassures her.</p>
<p>I am a college freshman about a 3 hour flight from home. I call my mother daily, and I talk to my father and us freshman sister every 2-3 days. Conversations with my mom usually last about ten min, and with my dad and sister about half an hour. Both my parents text/facebook/email regularly, and outside of the calls I make on my own my parents call or text requesting a call near daily as well. We talk about my classes, grades, roommates, plans for the day, pranks between my room and the one next door, and what’s going on at home. I talk to my sister about her classes and teachers, since I had some of the same ones. The communication keeps me from getting too homesick, and them happy. My mom is always happy to give computer help, and my dad loves to help me set stuff up or fix things over the phone. I think it comforts them that I keep them in the loop, and they like to know that if I have a problem I might insist on taking care of it myself but I won’t try to hide it from them.</p>
<p>I am a freshman male over 2000 miles from home, and I talk to my parents about once every 2 weeks for ~45 mins. My siblings and I have always been fairly independent, but it’s nice to catch up from time to time.</p>
<p>I talk to my older brother on the phone once every few weeks, and I talk to my younger sister about once a month. I don’t really talk to my friends on the phone. I just chat with them on facebook.</p>
<p>Poisonous sounds exactly like my two S’s.</p>
<h1>111 and #112 are perfect examples of the male/female differences in the calling home mentality:)</h1>
<p>Just spoke with my sister. She said she gets calls from her freshman son a lot, most of the time it’s “Mom, could you send…” Her favorite one was when he called to say his girlfriend didn’t like the new body wash he had at school, she liked the one at their house when she’s visited. He wanted to know if she could send him a bottle. The only place where she could get them to ship was from Amazon, but they only sold it by a case. She didn’t want to bother to go to a store to buy just one to mail, so she sent him a case. My sister said she didn’t realize it was a joint effort to keep a girlfriend happy.</p>
<p>I’ve noticed my D’s boyfriend’s mother is very involved in keeping D happy. Of course, she also calls D to see how S is doing since he only calls when he needs something. Women have to stick together. My MIL used to call me during college to see what was going on for holiday vacations, too. We’d plan. We still do. Is this strange?</p>
<p>Once a week plus anytime something particularly good or bad happens.</p>
<p>Replying to poetgrl (post #115), yes to me it sounds strange.</p>
<p>I never like it when parents call another student to report on their own child’s doings (short of emergencies, of course). It’s a triangle that can wait til they actually become the real in-laws, if they ever do. To me, your D’s boyfriend’s mom is way out of line to phone your daughter and hear reports.</p>
<p>His Mom keeps your D happy? Why? There are sad threads on CC about parents who got overly involved, then felt they “lost” a child when their own kid broke up with someone. </p>
<p>If that were my D, I’d gently advise her to stop reporting on the boyfriend’s doings to his Mom! At most a college D might tell a boyfriend’s Mom she’ll give him ONE message that his Mom called her and asked him to call home. And then don’t nag him or feel responsible for what/when he does. Get out of their triangle and make Mother and Son deal with each other’s frequency requests until they iron it out. If Mom calls her back because he didn’t call yet, just say “I already gave him that message” and don’t agree to deliver a second one.</p>
<p>I think it’s healthier. They’re not married yet and the Mom shouldn’t act as if they are. Puts pressure on your D and causes the boyfriend to learn to avoid women directly, just duck.</p>
<p>D calls weekly and texts daily. Usually short but thoughtful.</p>
<p>Thanks paying3tuitions…I don’t really mean the Mom “keeps my D” happy. I do know she has taken him shopping for gifts for her to help pick something out, that kind of thing…</p>
<p>She’s known the mom her whole life, and the young man, actually, but yeah, I see your points.</p>
<p>Oh, and BF and D are not at school together, which I thought was a very good thing for these two. ;)</p>
<p>D1 doesn’t usually call me; I call her about once a week. But she’s always been sort of phone-phobic, so it neither surprises nor bothers me. She’ll text or email more readily.</p>