<p>iChat is computer instant messaging (you type a few lines and they read them as you type, then they type a few lines back–all live, so you both must be on the computer at the same time). There are many versions of IM–most popular is AIM (Aol’s version, but anyone can download it for free and use it) among others. IChat and is available to Mac users but might also be downloadable to pcs–don’t really know this so someone else may tell you. It is like other IM applications (you both must be on your computers at the same time and you type back and forth) with the added bonus of also having a live webcam hookup. If your s or d doesn’t want you looking at them, they won’t use it with you. Depends on if they are already using iChat with friends and like it, I’ve heard. One benefit of IM-ing is that one can tell when the student is online (his/her name pops up on your IM friends list) so you might like knowing they are available.</p>
<p>For text messaging, you tap in your message on your phone (also can use your computer to type texts if S or D has Verizon cell phone) and send to s or d’s phone. They get a ping when it comes through and read it when they can. Some (my S2) will type a short note right back to you. Others (my S1) are too busy and then forget to do it later. !! But the kid gets charged a fee whether sending or receiving text messages and the costs really add up. A lot of kids text their friends all the time–what you u doing? Want to meet for lunch. That sort of thing. They can send a text to 5 friends at once or more. Texts are easier than phoning, are more silent (can multitask), more to the point, can be saved and responded to at more convenient time, and fun. More texts, more social and in the swing of a large group of friends.</p>
<p>If your family has the same provider (like Verizon) you save a lot of money on texting plans. For teens, I agree–get unlimited plans if you can afford it (or they can work to pay for it) if they do like to text. Some don’t as much. </p>
<p>I think each student will let their parents know which form of communication seems least intrusive, more invited. Some parents try many modes and discover one gets much better response than the others. It may take some trial and error until you find the right method for your kid.</p>
<p>Hang in there.</p>