I’m really glad you asked this. In looking at schools for my S25, I’m keenly aware of actual reports from the parents of other boys who indicate the fraternity rushing experience involves trauma bonding: sleep deprivation, drinking/eating until getting sick, humiliation. I’m not interested in promoting any “boys will be boys” with my kiddo.
At the same time, I hear from the parents of girls who have their sorority sisters looking out for them and making sure their grades are good.
I’m open to my student being involved in fraternities, but not at the expense of treating people with respect. And trying to figure out how to gauge the impact of Greek life on campus is definitely difficult. I’ll be eager to see responses and use them in the coming college visits.