@ClarinetDad16 That’s hard to say. Our S19 is on the XC team and just hangs with them. He’s joined other groups (yearbook, peer leadership, the junior board of our local community house) so he isn’t afraid to join a group. He will say, though, that yearbook for instance is very cliquey and he doesn’t fit socially with those kids even though he likes them. (They are the “popular” group. He really wouldn’t be invited to their stuff after school.)
He goes to a very large public high school. He’s actually running XC and track because he likes the kids. Doesn’t even love running. Sharing practice and meets with these kids bonds them. We certainly think he will like college more if he finds his “people”. He’s so much happier now that he has a group of friends.
I just don’t know if that would mean he would like a fraternity. I feel like he would hate rush with people judging him. I think he would find that ridiculous.