How UVA handled another sexual assault case...

The residents of the house had prepared for a chaotic night, purchasing five kegs of beer and a dozen 59-ounce “handles” of liquor for the house’s signature cocktail. They also had a four-gallon backpack sprayer that the investigators noted in their report was designed for spreading agricultural chemicals

Though UVA doesn’t condone the block party how is this quantity of purchase even take place?
UVA is aware of the drinking culture but what steps are they taking to get a handle on this issue.

When Lind wasn’t drinking what in her conscious thought I can drink five drinks and I will be ok and have some more at the party. Was 5 drinks an appetizer? I don’t understand how dangerous bing drinking is fun. Are parents paying for their kids college with the intention that they become alcoholics while obtaining their degree? I am just shaking my head over this.

And this is blackout behavior to the core.

If she blacked out, her last long-term memory would be the limit she set for herself. She could have easily had twice that many drinks and not have a clue, if she blacked out after the 3 or 4th drink - especially if she drank them in a short time frame. Sorry to say it, but her take on events is more what she hopes happened, not necessarily at all what happened.

My suggestion to her is stop drinking.

Speaking for myself. I am not blaming her for drinking too much; it is her life. What I am saying is she is in no position to state what she did or did not do and thus cannot say she is innocent of being complicit in the act and that the guy is throne totally at fault. If you have no long-term memory, then all you are doings making stuff up. Should not “convict” someone on made-up stuff.

“Lind, 19, a scholarship sophomore volleyball player from Southern California, started the evening in her apartment, eating a peanut butter and banana sandwich for dinner and nursing a Smirnoff Ice. She then downed two shots of tequila and two shots of vodka with her teammates.”

Is her level of pre-gaming / pre-drinking / whatever you want to call it appreciably different from that of the Brock Turner victim? What distinguishes the two cases, in everyone’s mind? Because I have to tell you, they seem qualitatively similar to me, except the Brock Turner victim went all the way to full pass-out.

Never having been drunk like this, I don’t really know what the stages are or how different people might react to liquor. I get sleepy, so I’m not really a good judge here!

》》 What distinguishes the two cases, in everyone’s mind?《《

Witnesses to the sexual encounter.

@MaterS - Let me take alcohol and no memory out of the mix and answer your question in that scenario.

I still would not change my answer because humans are not one level automatons. We have various levels of engagement and communication: verbal, hormonal, and physical/musculature. If a guy asks a girl if she wants to have sex and her response is to voluntarily get a condom and unwrap it and give it to him, that is pretty clear communication that she agrees to use the condom for something.

Any other interpretation is rather moot in my book given that a condom only has one purpose in this situation. Why get it unless one agrees to have sex? Dumb move to get it and much less unwrap it if having sex is not what someone wants to do.

My fundamental reasoning is that, cognitively speaking, it requires much more processing and logical function and connection of modes of operation to get a condom and physically unwrap and give it to someone than it requires to verbally say “yes.”

“Yes” is a word that could said reflexively in the heat of a moment; the other requires several levels of brain function/operations, where one has a few places where one could stop the process.

Therefore, the complete unwrapping of the condom and presenting it for use could be viewed as a clearer sign of intent than female just saying “Yes” verbally.

Maybe in her inebriated state she thought they were going to make balloon poodles.

One passed out making it clear she was incapable to consent. The other, in blackout acting normal, inviting the guy to her apt as heard by a third party. How’s the guy supposed to know she was incapable to consent? I’d say the difference is night and day.

As the parent of two girls, the issue of campus rape concerns me a lot, and I am disgusted and angered by the attitudes and actions of some of these college boys. But in this case I can’t see anything to indicate that this girl was assaulted. It’s surprising to me that it took all year for the school to come to this conclusion. While I don’t approve of anything that went on, this case left me sympathizing with the boy whose entire freshman year must have been dominated by this case. And like the Jackie case, I feel it goes a great disservice to the girls who are getting assaulted.

If people are willing to say that going into a room alone with another person, removing clothes, and placing a condom on them is not any indication of consent or intent to have sex, what exactly can the boys take as consent? Must they obtain a signed contract? Is that sufficient–it could be forged. So maybe they’d better film a video deposition of her consenting.

But even with any form of consent, who is to judge how incapactiated the girl is at this point? After all, the policeman in this case didn’t seem to think the girl needed medical attention. Forgive my ignorance of heavy drinking–is there any test which students could perform that would tell whether a girl was too drunk to give consent? Or should they conduct a blood alcohol test along with written and video documentation of consent? Is there a medical or legal definition of BAC that is considered too high to give consent?

I can’t understand why so many young people feel a need to drink like this, or think that it is somehow fun. This girl planned to get so drunk her judgement would be impaired and now regrets events that occurred. Her roommate went home early from the party vomiting. Why do otherwise intelligent young people think this kind of thing is fun? And why is the message not getting through that they may do things under the influence that aren’t choices they want to be making?

We are taking the word of the guy accused of rape that she unwrapped the condom. What makes him credible? We know that after he burst out of the room, this girl couldn’t take a step without falling and couldn’t dress herself. But we are supposed to believe she could unwrap a condom and put it on the guy only minutes before?
We are taking the word of what, a peeping tom, that this girl said “give us a minute?” Has anyone stopped to think about the credibility of that particular scenario? Unless it was detailed elsewhere, what we have is that some guy who lived in that house decided instead of banging on the bathroom door (and no one said anyone tried that first or at all) to climb out on the roof and bang on the bathroom window. And instead of being freaked out that it’s the middle of the night and someone is banging on a second story bathroom window, this girl supposedly said “give us a minute”. Not “what the hell was that?!” Not “oh my god, someone’s trying to break in through a window!” Not just a screech or shock or surprise… How credible is that? And then the only way the guy outside the window could have known who was in there and asked for a minute was if he could see in there. Otherwise, months later, how did he know who was in there? I mean, it’s not like the guy who found her naked and completely intoxicated called the police or security. This investigation wasn’t fresh. Other parties happened in between and I’m sure a lot of people used that bathroom that night for a variety of reasons. So was he really out there for some bizarre reason to roust someone out of the bathroom or was he out there watching?
And the supposed “witnesses” at the party to how obvious she was drunk? Their credibility? Months after this party they are asked how drunk this girl was and someone says she was kind of drunk but not that drunk? How would this person remember how drunk she was if it was just run of the mill?

She didn’t try to convict anyone on anything made up. She never said she had a memory of it, so how did se make anything up. What she is being criticized for is making herself vulnerable to guys (since they are not responsible) and then not putting on a happy face when she woke up from a blackout and realized something had occurred. She is criticized because she is supposed to shrug and say “my bad” and feel sorry for the poor, innocent boy when she is told they had a sexual encounter she didn’t remember. And then keep playing volleyball, because that was what was so important.

Look, I realize that there wasn’t enough evidence to convict him or even to kick him out of school. That’s not the part of the story I find objectionable. The parts that bother me are the expectation that she shouldn’t have been traumatized in any way and the shifting of all blame to her. That she shouldn’t drink anymore. That he did nothing wrong. Which is different than being legally guilty. No mention that he shouldn’t drink anymore. No mention that his actions may not have equaled legal guilt but were still wrong.

“One passed out making it clear she was incapable to consent. The other, in blackout acting normal, inviting the guy to her apt as heard by a third party. How’s the guy supposed to know she was incapable to consent? I’d say the difference is night and day.”

It’s not night and day to me. The Brock victim walked out of the party of her own volition. I want to be very clear. I am not victim-blaming at all, but it just strikes me as unusual that this case is drawing such different responses from the Brock case. Either way, they were drunk of their own volition - these aren’t roofie cases. Consequently, they were unable to make decisions to protect themselves. It seems almost - I don’t know, happenstance - that the Brock victim has no memory of her actions / surroundings and blacked out, and this girl has no memory of her actions / surroundings but didn’t black out. These situations feel a heck of a lot more similar to me than different.

In other words, it’s quite possible that Brock’s victim “looked like” this UVA woman up til the time she passed out.

I stand corrected on my statements in post #9. Early research was only done on alcoholics. They now know that even social drinkers can black out.

It sure sounds that this girl was this-close to a blackout. Maybe she even did momentarily.

My point is, I am kind of flabbergasted that Stanford girl got tons of sympathy and this girl isn’t. Their situations seem very similar. They pregamed, “flirted” in public settings while continuing to drink. To observers, they appeared to leave with the guys under their own power (eg no one was dragging anyone by the hair). They each have no memory of the goings-on.

From my recollection of the Stanford case, that victim was awake until such point as she blacked out on the ground. If the riders had ridden by a few minutes earlier and observed them, it’s possible she would have been awake. How would that be any different from the UVA case then? It seems if one deserves sympathy, the other does too.

To me, the distinguishing event would other witnesses when they were discussing where, let’s go to my apt vs lets go upstairs. There were people testifying that. Assuming the witnesses are credible and not biased one way or other that settles it for me. In Brock case weren’t they some people trying to stop him seeing her condition?

Yes @Iglooo . The two men on bicycles that helped the victim in the Stanford case found him on top of her while she was passed out . The difference between the 2 cases in my opinion there were eyewitnesses who could attest that she truly was passed out, whereas in the UVA case there were none. So although there was a possibility that she too may have “blacked out” , without a witness, while unfortunate it becomes her word against his. I’m not a victim blamer, both students made extremely poor decisions while intoxicated, but IMO it is not as clear as the Stanford case.

So everyone who testified about this was mistaken or in some kind of conspiracy but the person who admits she doesn’t remember what happened knows exactly what happened?

Another difference between the Stanford and UVa cases: in the Stanford victim impact statement, she pointed out that Brock Turner’s initial account given to the police did not mention consent. His whole story about consent was cooked up a year later after consultation with his lawyers, who knew that the victim had no memory. And there were no 3rd party witnesses who corroborated the claim of consent in any way, just the bicyclists whose testimony indicated she was incapacitated. The UVa guy’s story, by contrast, seems to have come out quickly under questioning by fellow students with no “authority figures” involved. It included descriptions of her actions indicating consent and included witness corroboration. I doubt that most 18 years are smart enough to make up a convincing story like that without time and professional coaching like Brock Turner had.

What if the next time a female student says she doesn’t remember what happened, the guy says that the female assaulted him and HE didn’t consent to the sexual interaction? The victim must always be believed in these situations, right? Everyone will rally to his cause, right?

In the Stanford case the accused was found having sex with someone who was totally passed out, which under the law means he was guilty of rape. If he started having sex with her while she was conscious, even if she had consented (which may or may not be true, depending on how drunk she was), once she passed out he was guilty of rape, because once she passed out she could not say “no”. Consent doesn’t just mean when you start having sex, consent means that you implicitly consent to having sex by not saying no, whether at the beginning , in the middle or 5 seconds before the other person finished. Once you cannot say no, that is the end of having sex, period, for the other person. So even if there were questions about whether she initially consented, Brock was guilty of non consensual sex once he continued to have sex with someone who was unconscious. It is a similar concept in S/M where the bottom has the right to say no and stop the action at any point (a safeword), in any kind of sex either person has to have the ability to say no at any point, if not, it is over the line.

With the Lind case it is a tough one. For example, she may have taken out and unrolled a condom because at that point she may have been able to consent, with alcohol your body processes it at the rate of your particular metabolism, so it is possible when they first started she could consent, but as the alcohol processed she became more and more out of it. The real question is that let’s say that is true, that the condom thing shows she was able to consent at the start, that doesn’t mean that the other person should necessarily be in the clear. In this case, it is very gray, because we don’t know subsequent to sex starting if she met the standard of being able to consent, and it raises questions that are difficult to answer. Someone unconscious is a no brainer, but at what level do we consider someone able to not consent? I am not much of a drinker, but there were a small handful of times when I got drunk enough that I don’t recall what happened after a certain point the night it happened…so what legally determines that consent, and that is the problem with this case, we don’t know how bad she was, and while I am a vigorous advocate for prosecuting cases like this, there is so much gray here that I think the school did the right thing, the law is such that if you can’t know with a certain level of certainty whether the law has been violated, then it goes with the accused. Brock didn’t have that, he was an arrogant Delta Bravo who went well beyond the legal standard (again, whether the girl consented earlier or not doesn’t matter, the ability to say no at any time is the key to consent, too, and she couldn’t do it). In this case, I don’t know if the girl could have said no, since I don’t have, for example, the blood alcohol level of the girl at the time, saying she was too drunk to stand up doesn’t mean, to me, that she cannot consent, or that she didn’t remember it the next day.

As far as the accused being drunk, that is meaningless, whether the guy as stone cold sober or drunk as a skunk, alcohol is not a defense for criminal activity,if you drink to the point where you can’t control yourself and commit a criminal act, you are a criminal, and the fact that you got drunk means you do live with the consequences of your actions, whereas if you drink and become the victim of a crime in part or largely because you were drinking, you still were the victim, pure and simple, and being drunk in no way, shape or form should ever be used as an excuse for committing a crime. The base case of that is the person who gets blotto and then drives and kills someone, one of the things about drunk driving is that people who are drunk think they are not drunk enough to have a problem, so in a sense the drinking made them commit the crime, made them not only incapable of safely driving a car, but also made them think they were able to…yet try that in court these days, and watch what happens (sadly, it was a defense that worked in the past “oh, the poor guy had a few too many drinks, he didn’t mean to kill anyone by driving”).

The fact that a victim themselves were drinking only is relevant in terms of the level of incapacitation they had and whether it stopped consent. The hard part with these is school are assuming that if someone files charges, that they are necessarily true, especially if the victim has been drinking, and I think there needs to be a legal standard evolved that says or tries to say where that line is. In rape without drugs, forced rape, one says the other says will come down to the credibility of the accused and supposed victim, with something like drinking and sex it often comes down to the same thing, but the credibility of the supposed victim often seems to be assumed to be more than the accused, and it shouldn’t be.

For those talking about the victims (usually young women) getting drunk and questioning their victimhood because of it, phrase that different way. In many of these cases, the accused has been drinking as well, so why are you talking only about the victim? After all, if the accused drank enough that it ‘made them go over the line’, why do you question the victim’s culpability because they were drinking and not the accused? More importantly, why do some of those I have heard discussing this (not on this board necessarily) use alcohol as a defense, both by saying the accused was a ‘good person’ who had too much to drink and the assumed victim was at fault for drinking too much and de facto ‘contributing to it’? What bothers me about that is it is in a sense justifying the actions of the accused by saying they were less culpable because they were drinking while also saying they were less culpable because the victim partially brought it on themselves because they had been drinking, which strikes me as the old ‘explaining away’ rape as being the victim somehow was responsible for it, whether they had been drinking, wearing the wrong outfit or shoes, makeup, where they were and so forth (testimony from a real rape case I read about at one point, referring to a woman who had been gang raped in a bad area “So Miss X, you were in [area Y], a single, young, attractive woman, an area you didn’t live in, wearing club wear that left little to the imagination, you mean to tell us that was all a coincidence you were there dressed like that?” with the implication she was ‘looking for action’…focusing on the victims actions, as ill thought out as they are, is ignoring that the accused either deliberately did what they did (they were cognizant of what they did, knew she was drunk), or is ignoring the very thing they accuse the victim of, that they got themselves blotto with binge drinking which after all, often leads to date rape on both ends, the accused and the victim.