You are comparing relationships developed over years of shared experiences with people you have barely met- of course the connections are not as strong! Give yourself a little time.
Decent odds that if they keep going down that path they won’t be in school for long, and then you would have transferred to be with people who aren’t even there anymore.
I can just about bring myself to give you the benefit of the doubt that ‘put her down’ is slang in your crowd for ‘handle that’. Be aware that to outsiders it does not make you look like a prince among men.