<p>Honestly, I think the real problem here is that you are letting someone else dictate your life. I understand that Stanford is your #1 choice (it is mine too), but there are other options if you don’t get in. You might consider UCLA. I loved it. No one can tell you you CAN’T go to a different university. You just have to apply, get accepted, and go. If you really discuss your options and your desires with your family, I’m sure they will understand. Some people just don’t fit into Berkeley’s atmosphere. It takes a special kind of person to go to Cal and succeed. But maybe you are the kind of person that would fit in beautifully at UCSD or USC, both excellent schools. Not to mention the several smaller private universities in California and outside of California that could be perfect matches for you. Do some research and find out what YOU want, regardless of other’s approval. Then discuss it with them and be strong. Stand up for yourself. If you can’t do that, I don’t think you have what it takes to succeed at either Berkeley or Stanford. That may be harsh, but I really think you should be confident in yourself and your beliefs to succeed i a school like that. </p>
<p>Now, your “how to get into Stanford” conundrum. You have to try and be the best applicant possible. Great grades, great scores, and great extracurrics. Consider getting a job you are interested in, applying for internships, volunteering A LOT, being involved in your community; these are all things that could strengthen your application. Start working on your essays as soon as possible. They need to be SUPERB. They need to reflect who you REALLY are. Your voice needs to come through loud and clear. Demonstrate your talents and your passions. And, try to have fun with it. You should be proud of your application and your accomplishment, even if you don’t get in.</p>