" Ive met different people and can each lunch with them but cant really call them my friends."
But it’s a GOOD start. To make friends you have to have more interaction than just lunch. It’s a process.
Stick around on weekends and make some plans!
That can be a group activity set up by your dorm, attending a church of your choice and joining in on social activity afterward, Going to the gym and looking to get in on a class or just swim a few laps or run–you’ll meet someone maybe with a similar interest. Explore your campus! Find a friendly face and eat dinner. Best done on weekends.
Join a study group from a class.
Do not rely on your roommate to be your best friend. That’s setting yourself up for disappointment. That doesn’t mean you can’t be friendly and live harmoniously. Just realize you need to rely on yourself to decide who you’d like to hang with and random assignments don’t always do the trick.
And drunk “friends” do STUPID things! Even best friends. Keep your wits about you. Learn how to say “no” and safely extricate yourself.
My short story: My roommate WAS my best friend from HS so we got along great! I was lucky.
But we were in totally different majors and had different schedules etc.so we at times never even saw one another. It was up to me to meet people.
My advice (which works in life and love): Work on YOU! Go DO what interests YOU. Go to the PLACES that interest YOU. Be that church, the gym, the museum, the library, volunteering, jogging a club. Whatever.
Quit “looking” for friends and just work on what YOU want to do. You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to attract people TO you.
But you have to be present. It’s not gonna happen sitting at your family’s home on the weekend.