<p>I am willing to bet there is a sizable community of students who share your values. They are just not as visible or vocal (no one brags about the girls they did not sleep with or the alcohol they did not drink) so you assume you are the only one. I quickly checked, your school has about 45,000 students. I believe you can find a community within your campus. Before I go any further, PLEASE NOTE that I am not, by any means, categorizing you as “Christian” just because of your values. In fact, your reasons for avoiding alcohol and sex do not seem religious in nature. However, it sounds like you do not just want a few friends who do not drink, but want to be find at least an enclave within the student body where people have a similar lifestyle you might want to look into Campus Crusade for Christ or something along those lines. If you are into something that tends to attract people who are more religious and/or conservative, I think you will find what you are looking for. Any school as large as yours is incredibly diverse. Even if you are not religious, you just might find more people who have similar interests/values. </p>
<p>If you are looking for something non-religious, I would go with what intparent was saying about special housing or “alcohol-free” dorms (are there any, or is that more of a punch line at your school?)</p>
<p>Also – athough I normally have positive comments about community colleges, I do not think that is the right move for you unless you are really feeling not ready for college in general or finances are a major issue. </p>
<p>@shoboemom
“I can promise you that there are girls at your school that are hoping they meet someone like you! I know that finding them can be difficult though.” – I agree, but I don’t even think it will be difficult. He works out all the time and isn’t constantly trying to score, there are a ton of girls at your school who would love to meet you. </p>
<p>@intparent – Although I normally lean in the pro-fraternity direction when dishing “College Life” advice, I think you are correct. @Berikson – your fraternity/Greek life in general may not be a good fit if you do not feel comfortable there.</p>
<p>@Rolando4
“Ignore your dad. It’s your life/happiness, not his.”
- It is Berikson’s happiness, but if it is his dad’s money, he has to find a mutually agreeable solution.</p>