IS there a Penn State regional campus near you? I would think you may be better going to CC for. year, I may say gap year but your family life seems somewhat stressful so maybe being out of the home more could be a good thing. Another idea is go ROTC, it is not for everyone but it is much better than 100k in debt, or go to the local jesuit school and work you but off to become a RA, again not a given but would save you room and board for 3 years. Rutgers for instance has a dorm where the kids do everything, they cook , clean and run it in exchange for free room and board, see if any schools near you may have something similar.