As long as you are in a mindset to treat others respectfully you will be fine at Loyola and other college’s even if you fear they “lean left”.
What gets people into trouble is loudly proclaiming that a gay classmate is going to hell for their sinful lifestyle, or announcing in a poli sci class about individual rights and the Constitution that using someone’s preferred pronoun (he, she, they) is an abomination.
Conducting yourself with a modicum of dignity-- as you clearly do- is not going to be problematic on the vast majority of college campuses. People will respect your beliefs and practices, and will expect you to do the same-- which will not be challenging for you!!!
I’m sorry for changing up so much, I plan on looking at all schools now, I mentioned it to Mom. I don’t want to pick a school just because my parents want me to stay close to home. She said she’d think about it ( A.K.A sure )
Hi, it’s been a while since i’ve been active but I wanted to know if I’m overreacting. I shared the news that a school offered me a $34,900 scholarship to attend. I shared the news with my dad and mom happened to listen in. Neither of them were happy for me really, dad said we could wait to see if any of our first choices accepted me ( fair ), he mentioned that it was far ( true ) and I agree with him but that amount of money is a rather large sum in my opinion. I felt really proud because I didn’t think any school was going to give me a scholarship, let alone one as massive at that ( 3/4ths of the tuition ). It’s a school i’d be interested in ( private, religious, good nursing program ). They want to automatically offer a spot in their nursing program. I’m not sure about going to an all girls school. Sounds like drama waiting to happen ( girls golf team gave me a taste of it ). My mom scoffed that no school would want to give me that much ( though it was in writing ) and dad said the ranking was too low nationally (212/400+). It just bothered me a lot that neither were happy for me or thought that it was great and I kinda just feel brushed off. I don’t know if this is normal and I wanna know if I’m making a bigger deal than it is. I know it’s not specifically getting-accepted-related but I’m wondering if they’re right.
I know, It’s just hard. I’ve always tried to make them proud but I always seem to fall short of their expectations. I’m not like my cousins that went to Ivy Leagues and certainly not as athletically gifted in sports ( besides golf ) than others, I’m pretty mediocre and I guess it’s always been an issue for my parents. Doesn’t matter how hard I try. It’s not like family therapy hasn’t tried to change that, they just don’t wanna listen lol.
Senior year started in two weeks. I’m almost done with my college essay and almost done with my common app. I was hoping you guys had an idea to guide me on lol.
So you have been accepted b4 Senior year ? With a big scholarship ? Wow.
They should be beyond proud.
Where you go for nursing likely matters little.
You now have this offer and everything else is gravy.
Hold your head high. Maybe don’t discuss with them.
Keep up your school work.
You just have to power through -maybe talk to a friend’s mom. Or a counselor at school for guidance. Not all parents are supportive on the outside but I’m sure they are on the inside. Besides, you are going to college - not them.
I had already had a feeling they wouldn’t be too happy about it but I hoped that feeling was wrong but it wasn’t. I think i’d rather share stuff like this with you guys than my parents. I was hoping for at least a “that’s good” but nothing positive was said. My parents I don’t think have ever said the words " I’m proud of you " to me ever but it means a lot to me that people -I don’t know closely- do So, thank you.
I don’t think I’m going to bring any college related stuff to my parents in the future.
My advice would be not to overlook all-women colleges. For example, there is one in my area that is really good for nursing and is not filled with “drama” but rather with a lot of support. But in any case, I suspect this won’t be your last acceptance!
Best Wishes and again, congrats! I’m sure I speak for the entire CC community when I say we are proud of you!
Well, Guys… we have another issue that popped up. I’m 90% sure my parents are gonna kick me out at 18… what the frick do I do? About colleges or anything because I’ll still be in my senior year.
Re: kicking you out - you can pursue three options simultaneously. The first is to reach out to your guidance counselor ASAP, who can connect you with a social worker who can help you figure out a path forward IF it comes to that. The second is to sit down with your parents and calmly explain to them that you are going to let the extended family know that you need a place to live while you finish HS (and the embarrassment is usually enough to get people to back down). And the third avenue is to figure out who in your parents lives is an influencer over them…a religious leader? A best friend who knows you well? A colleague at work who they respect? And then you drop an email to that person to let them know that you may need their help talking rationally to your parents.
It may be an idle threat…but at least you have teed up a next step if you need it. Be careful with your guidance counselor to use neutral language. If you describe them as abusive…your counselor is a mandated reporter. So if they are stubborn and don’t listen…say that. But don’t exaggerate to prove your point (unless you are actually being abused).
Hugs and good luck…you sound like a terrific person!!
Thank you, I emailed my social worker today though she won’t see it for a week or two. Family members… we’re asian and no one will take in someone else’s kid. At least not in my family. Rationally, our family therapist has tried but my parents think family therapy will “make me more mature”. To give you an idea, CPS has been called 4 times in the past. You guys have been more supportive than most and i’m grateful.
I’m trying to figure out how I should pursue college right now. Should I look for cheaper schools?
