<p>My roommate was missing more often than not. She had a bunch of friends at school that she’d gone to high school with so she ended up going over to their rooms to hang out every night and sometimes she just stayed there. A lot of the time I’d come home at like 3am and be trying not to turn on too many lights or be too loud because I didn’t want to wake her up, and it’d turn out she wasn’t even there.</p>
<p>does he live close to the school? maybe he went home for a couple days.</p>
<p>Dude, tell the bossman of your dorm. </p>
<p>Gosh</p>
<p>If one of my own cats are gone for more than half a day, I start asking the neighbors and looking around! You know what I mean?</p>
<p>…and then when your roommate finds out you seeked the hounds after him, you are going to lose all trust you had with him.</p>
<p>The room mate does not have to find out as long as OP makes them swear to be anon.</p>
<p>guess no one remembers the college student from last year who was missing for days, and turned up dead from a bad accident</p>
<p>your roommate is showing a total lack of maturity and manners, and so what if he is a bit irked, if he is he is a total jerk to begin with and you have lost nothing</p>
<p>my roommate was hardly in our room, but she would come back for at least a change of clothes, a shower, books, etc., and she would leave me a note… so for someone to just disappear and not come back for stuff is odd…I would bet you most people at least come back to get some new underwear or a clean shirt</p>
<p>I would do this, tell the RA, say its probbly nothing, but the RA can discreetly check to see if the student is attending classes, so they know the kid has a pulse, and if still nothing, there might be a cell phone # for him somewhere so someone can call</p>
<p>As I said if the roommate is mad because you got worried after three days, the roommate is an immature jerk</p>
<p>and what trust do they have already…none…zip…the guy disappears for three days, no note no nothing, and you think there is some trust…sorry…</p>
<p>you tell your roommate, or leave a note…dude, gonna be gone for a few days…see ya…man, that is soooo hard to do…and if he is on campus to not get some clean clothes…or charge his phone…</p>
<p>can you see if that kind of stuff is still in the room…phone charger, etc…without going through any stuff of course</p>
<p>You don’t have his cell #?</p>
<p>I don’t know about you, but telling my roommate where I’m going is pretty far down on the ladder of things I care about doing. He’s a roommate, not a child you have to care for.</p>
<p>^agreed. </p>
<p>If I didn’t see my roommate for a week without notice, I’d call her. Otherwise I would assume that she was at home or staying with someone or something. I wouldn’t expect her to make a point of telling me where she was going to be at all times, and I don’t freak out if I don’t hear from her in a while.</p>
<p>3 days is nothing. 1 week is something to worry about.</p>
<p>I went a couple days once without sleeping in my room. How’d I study? Many of my friends had books that were in the same courses as me. It’s not like my set of books in my dorm were the only ones on campus. </p>
<p>I was very close to my roommate though so I called him regularly. I’d call your roommate and pretend to talk about something else just to make sure he is okay. Call him up and ask him about a class homework or something (if you share a class with him). Or call him up and ask if he has seen your blue shirt or something (which can lead to a conversation about where he has been since he might respond with “No I haven’t been in the room for 3 days”).</p>
<p>Its better to be safe then sorry…so why not ask around. Maybe he came when you left.
Anyways it can’t hurt asking someone.</p>
<p>If I’m friends with a roommate, sure. If not - I don’t care if he knows where I am or not. Even when I lived with my friends, I didn’t leave anyone “notes” when I’d leave - not if it was for an hour or 2 days. Obviously, since the OP is posting on CC - he’s not friends with the guy or he’d have called and said “Yo, you dead?” </p>
<p>Leave him alone. There’s nothing “immature” about getting irked that a guy you don’t really know calling the hounds in because he doesn’t know where you are.</p>
<p>(Edited to remove courtesy violations. – Moderator Amistad)</p>
<p>Fo sho. You are both adults. If he chooses to go on a monthly drunken bender and ends up halfway across the country, it’s his choice.</p>
<p>Even if it’s not really necessary to tell your RA, I would definitely ask around on your floor. I mean, how can that be “calling the hounds” if it’s been 3 days…If you’re genuinely worried there’s nothing to be ashamed about, even if you don’t know him that well. If nobody knows where he’s at, that’s a little odd and honestly, how annoying can a little text message or note on facebook be?</p>
<p>I would definitely tell roommates if I was going to be gone for an extended period of time, like 3+ days…it’s just common curtesy when you’re living with someone, you know? Sure, he can do whatever he wants…but it’s ok if you ask around to see if he’s ok.</p>
<p>Common courtesy to tell someone you are forced to live with your plans? I mean, if I’m good friends with my roommate and I tell them my plans, that’s cool. If I’m not good friends with them, why should I have to tell them anything?</p>
<p>I don’t know my roomie’s number, nor do I know if he has a facebook</p>
<p>Drew: Thus, you should feel no obligation (and shold feel disinclined in fact) to tell your RA.</p>
<p>If you don’t know your roommate, you’re not making things inconvenient for them in any way by being gone, so why would they be annoyed. If anything, they’d probably welcome not having to be restricted by someone else’s habits and getting to do whatever they want like having visitors late at night.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t tell anyone and just hope that I have a single for the rest of the year.</p>