I’m sooo confused?

Colleges offer aid based on merit, need, or a combination of them. You’re an international student with an ~1140 SAT, so it will be tough to get merit. If your parents are really willing to spend $23k/year there may be some schools that would be affordable, but I don’t think you’re going to get a $60k/year school down to ~$20k. Where else did you apply?