Friendship is not something you apply to. It’s something you build over time. And you do that through shared activities. So: your favorite EC. Volunteering. Study groups (I am a big fan of study groups!). In all of them, it’s not about insta-friend, it’s doing a specific thing for a specific purpose with other people who share your objective (getting the sets ready for the play / helping making somebody else’s world better by doing X / doing well on the midterm). While you are doing these shared activities you will all get to know each other. For some people that will happen quickly. Others will take a good long time.
Pretty much everybody here on CC can give you examples of why 1st term friend status is not defining… For many (most?) people the first friendship group in college often reconfigures in 2nd semester of first year or 1st semester of second year. IMO, the main reason for that is that, if you are doing college well(!) you are growing and changing a LOT during this first year, and as you sort out more about yourself, the kinds of people you want to be with evolves as well (you may have some friends from primary school- but I would be surprised if you have very many, not because they weren’t nice people or good friends, but because how you each evolved took you in different directions). Allow yourself the room to grow! And be patient with yourself.
- Good for you for recognizing a relapse!
- Do whatever self-care that is appropriate for a relapse
- Organize a couple of the things above to give you things to pull yourself towards to help you get through this moment.