I was in the exact same situation as you my freshman year. I thought it would get easier so I decided to stick it out. It only got worse, and I finally moved home my junior year so I could commute. When I moved back home I was the absolute happiest I’ve ever been, and I deeply regret suffering for so long simply because I was afraid of what people would think or of being a “failure” like you said. I strongly recommend either taking a semester at home at community college or transferring to a different university where you can commute. This really helped me with my anxiety and I’m in a much better place now.