<p>I have three sons. Two have had girlfriends for a few years (same girl). First year, girl’s mom gave my sons gifts. Second year, I felt that meant I had to give the girl something too. So I did. This year, I will give them something as I know them a lot better, but still feel no need to have them give me something. If they did, I would also like the idea of home baked goods or a picture. So does this mean the boys have to give something to her mother too? I guess what I’m saying is if your daughter gives a gift to her boyfriend’s parents, then the boyfriend is going to feel obligated to give you something. So what would you like to receive? And is it the kind of relationship where you want a gift from your daughter’s boyfriend?</p>
<p>I like the homemade baking idea and put into something pretty or special presentation. Picture idea, particularly of just their son, nice too. </p>
<p>Boysmom, I don’t think they have to exchange…because I think in this instance, she is going to be a house guest and that is the purpose behind the gesture. </p>
<p>What we sometimes do when our kids stay at someone’s house far away (come to think of it, thanks for this thread because I forgot all about getting something for the family where my D is about to spend a week in FL !..CC comes in handy, my goodness)…but we sometimes get some things in our local gift shops that have our local area represented on it. I realize this may not apply to all cases but in ours, we live in a resort community filled with gift shops and many things with logos of this community and/or of Vermont and so we like to send folks little momentos from here to where they live. Sometimes that means mugs, calendars, decorative plates, or gift baskets of local coffee or maple syrup and pancake mix, etc. It is like “here’s a touch of life/love from where we live” to your home. Your D might be able to bake something and then put it in Michigan mugs or a Michigan bowl or something like that. </p>
<p>Susan</p>
<p>Soozievt – Very good idea to add some Michigan stuff.</p>
<p>She has her last final today (yes, Saturday afternoon!). Husband is on his way to pick her up. If she has finished packing by the time he gets there, and if the snow we are presently getting doesn’t get too deep, they should be back late tonight. Otherwise it will be tomorrow morning. (It’s a six hour drive.) Then she’ll be home about a month.</p>
<p>Peg</p>
<p>I may be wrong, but I think you are referring to the Broadway musical “Wicked”. If you are, I will say right now that it is absolutely amazing. I went with my family last month to see it on Brodway in NYC. It was a blast!!! Oh, just thinking about makes me want to see it again! 
I hope they have a great time.</p>
<p>Question: Is this a BF she met at college this past semester? Or an old boyfriend from way back?</p>
<p>If it’s a new BF, I find the tickets gift a bit unusual. </p>
<p>My freshman S has fallen head over heals in lust–I mean love–this past semester. Not a HUGE surprise but I wouldn’t DREAM of sending the girl a gift–nevermind something so memorable. Likewise, alarm bells would be ringing if the GF sent me a schmaltzy photo of S.</p>
<p>They are 18. Parental involvement complicates their ability to understand the relationship, to make choices. If you’ve overheard the 45 minute phone calls you know the intensity of the relationship is confusing in itself. </p>
<p>Personally, I wouldn’t fan the flames and I would be very wary of his parents’ motives (as in “Here’s a saviour for junior! Woohoo!”)</p>
<p>Ha, ha Cheers. I have a gallery of photos of former BFs and GFs that I keep in my stash. When we took the family picture this Thanksgiving, I was racking my brain trying to find a nice way to get the fiancees out of a few shots so could have some “pure” family photos where I don’t have to think about deleting someone’s head in the future. Until the wedding takes place, I want the official shot to be family only. I have too many pictures of that sort where I can’t even remember who the “flavor of the month” is in a group shot. </p>
<p>Cookies and fudge can be eaten or pitched readily. I think that kind of a gift is more appropriate until things are etched in stone. These days, even then, that is no guarantee, but then they are legally in the family.</p>