<p>Nicha, these are all about your mom’s issues and not yours. As painful as it is, try to look past them. Unless she comes right out and says NO, go ahead with your plans at UCSB. I suspect that in a few months the fear and anxiety that is triggering her unattractive behavior will subside and you’ll have your mom back again - but you’ll be wiser and remember that this side of her exists. She is human, and you are not responsible for her choices regarding her own happiness.</p>