<p>Take a DEEP breath and say to yourself over and over again-it will get better when I am at college. I’M GOING TO A UC!!!You need to start to “tune her out”. Go on facebook and find a forum for UCSB students and start talking with them. Your mom is also most likely feeling angst that you are leaving soon, all parents do [ but probably is conflicted and doesn’t want to admit it]. Is your mom is from overseas? [ my apologies if this is not correct] So many foreign born parents place WAY to much emphasis on the name of the college, and don’t understand that for UG students here in the US, where you go to college is NOT as important as what you learn there.</p>