<p>ThinkingTooHard:</p>
<p>Exactly: Thnk about it: A student works hard in high school, only to show up on the campus of a nominally Ivy League institution and find that social life revolves around packs of boys getting drunk and vomiting in grubby basements; and then imagine that student checking in on their alma mater decades later and finding that all the dysfunction not only is still there, but possibly has become worse than ever. I’m not sure where the “gratitude” you mention should come into play in this scenario.</p>