<p>I think the easiest way to switch it actually doesn’t involve you changing anything except your mindset. What I mean by that is, don’t worry about other people. Just worry about yourself. It’s basically the same thing as what limabeans01 said, about competing with yourself. I’m not that competitive, but I start to feel jealous and irritated if a good chunk of people beat me on an exam or some other graded thing. But instead of hating other people or what not, I just try to work as hard as I need to in order to succeed, and I do that for myself, not to necessarily one-up other people.</p>
<p>Basically, to use the example of an exam, just study as hard as you need to so that you can get a good grade. Remember, if you get good grades, or succeed in something, you don’t even have to bat an eyelid toward other student or other people you’re competing with. But, if you get bad grades, you’ll have to spend the time working that much harder, first to get back to the middle of the pack, then to try to beat everyone else, and that’s where competition and aggressiveness take over. Do what you need to do just for yourself, and not to beat everyone else. Failure loves company and success takes care of itself.</p>