Great advice, thank you. At this point I am trying to gage weather even to encourage my kid to consider these schools.
We have been hunting for schools with merit aid until now, but she has the profile to be a contender (for a lottery ticket) at one of these schools, so I go back and forth about whether she should at least try. Brown seems like the best fit of all the top name brand schools. She has a strong legacy at Princeton, but she is turned off by the stress culture that she has heard about at Princeton (and Cornell).
I will reach out to a financial aid officer first before I talk with her about considering Brown.