<p>The situation would be uncomfortable. Period. Whether the complaining roommate is right or wrong, insensitive or not, the set-up is going to leave her feeling like she can’t live like a college student in her own room. If the kid goes to bed at 8 or 9, she’s effectively kicked out. If the kid keeps college hours while visiting mom, she’s got a 4 year old boy watching her every move. Even the best 4 year olds get into stuff, butt in with obnoxious questions, etc. Is he that much different than a gross boyfriend? I’d argue, yes, he is. </p>
<p>The four year old is a child. He must be treated and talked to as one. You can tell your roommate to please go stay at gross boyfriend’s place when he gets obnoxious. You can’t tell a mom to go stay at the 4 year old’s. Roommates can negotiate who gets the room if one wants to have guest or gathering, and this can be fairly last minute. If the child is there every weekend (although there’s no indication that this is the arrangment), roomie NEVER gets to host weekend activities at her place because where else would mom and child go? </p>
<p>I don’t think NYU can do much more than they have wrt the situation as neither woman is in violation of school policy. However, I do believe the parent is making unfair demands of her roommate.</p>