Is it messed up if I choose to not dorm in the LGBT living community?

OP, sounds like @skieurope reinforced your opinion. I also don’t understand where offense can be taken with your opinion.

As a parent, I don’t think many other parents would have any issue with you rooming with their sons. I would suggest, if possible, that you make your future roommate aware of this long before moving in just so there aren’t any surprises.