<p>Most people born in 1992 are seventeen! That’s painfully young to be considering marriage. </p>
<p>“■■■■■” was a poor word choice - sorry. </p>
<p>Have you considered that you are going about this in the wrong way? Isn’t it better to make the best choices for yourself and let nature take its course in terms of meeting someone? By forcing or artificially setting up a situation, you can almost make sure that the very thing you want doesn’t happen. Life is like that. Think of how disappointed you’d feel if you moved to another part of the country, enrolled at a school, and then never met one single decent guy? It happens all the time. </p>
<p>I had a friend years ago who tried so hard to meet men that she actually prevented herself from ever meeting anyone really nice. It was as if the men sensed how desperate she was. She finally met her husband when she gave up looking.</p>
<p>Why bother with the relationship? When I was at MIT, the school newspaper regularly ran ads from people soliciting sperm and eggs with 1500+ SAT scores.</p>
<p>Mostly middle-class. Certainly not wealthy. But the school was relatively cheap and students often had part-time jobs. So I don’t think these women were wasting a lot of money of running up big debts by staying in school six years instead of four.</p>
<p>wannabe90, is this what you are afraid about? </p>
<p>“My parents both have masters degrees, and they did not meet in college they had an arranged marriage when they were both about 30 years old. I don’t think there marriage is very successful, because they used to fight and argue a lot.”</p>
<p>Will your parents insist on setting you up if you don’t find your own husband within a reasonable amount of time? Have you talked with them about whether they think their marriage has been a success? From your perspective is isn’t, but they might be fine with it. Whether we like it or not, our parents’ marriages usually are the models we follow in our own. Before you do marry, you might want to work through your feelings about the fighting and arguing with a counselor who can help you master healthier coping skills.</p>
<p>That’s a good point, but still, college is pretty expensive nowadays and to me the idea of spending 6 years on the chance that I might marry someone who could be successful without even getting a degree to fall back on is something that I wouldn’t encourage on anyone who isn’t at least middle-class.</p>
<p>I’ve found guys but they just aren’t marriage material, some of them have no aspirations. they think they are just set for life, with what they are doing now. I want a high achiever…
I think my parents are fine with their marriage and how it worked out, but I think they set a poor example for me and my siblings with the fighting. The thing is that my parents are opposites, and I’ve learned that opposites don’t really work out together. One is clean, the other is messy, one is hard-nosed over-achiever the other is kind of lazy, stuff like that. I think thats where the arguing stems from. It is more simple to be with someone who matches your beliefs, you behavior, and even in terms of looks…</p>