Is smoking a turnoff for women?

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<p>yeah, smoking is “classy”- that is such a lame reason, if you need to smoke to be classy, you need to look deep into yourself, because if holding a piece of paper and plant form that is lit on fire means one has class, how sad is that</p>

<p>so you smoke because people tell you not to, because its classy, because your family all smoked</p>

<p>well good for you</p>

<p>and someone’s post said that smokers are stressed because of non smokers giving them grief- that is where that comment of mine came from</p>

<p>please, go ahead and smoke, feel free…whatever it takes to make you feel classy, go for it</p>

<p>for many people, smoking is a signal of no class, but gee, that is just what lots of other people feel about smokers, their opinion sure, but if you think that smoking is classy, trust me, the majority of people think its gross, tacky and a lazy way of trying to accomplish a persona</p>

<p>many people are cool and classy and interesting because of who they are, not because they inhale and carry a lighter</p>

<p>an chill out, you asked the question, take the lumps</p>

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<p>I see your point, but I don’t agree with it… At all.</p>

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<p>I never said non-smokers weren’t classy. I’m just saying that smoking can add to someone’s peronality. Put yourself in my position for a second.</p>

<p>I smoke, and by smoking this inclines people to share their opinions on the street. </p>

<p>This makes me feel annoyed/angry. </p>

<p>I get stressed out. </p>

<p>I buy more cigarettes.</p>

<p>People start because of the stresses of life. That’s why I did…
So by shunning me, you are fueling my craving for cigarettes.</p>

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<p>Smoking is a deal breaker for me. My parents both smoke, and its pretty gross. The color it turns everything, their teeth, the way their room smells, the way my clothes smell even though my clothes are nowhere near theirs. I can’t even name all the times people ask me if I smoke because of the way I smell despite all my efforts to rid myself of it. I can’t wait until I get my whole new wardrobe this summer. I’m going to keep it at a friend’s house until I take it to college with me. They will not taint my clothing. Don’t know what will happen when I come home for vacation… but I’ll figure that out later.</p>

<p>Not to even mention the unhealthiness of it. I need someone who can keep up with me because I like being active. Smoking often lead people to be out of breath, if not now, then some point in the future.</p>

<p>I don’t think smoking makes you a bad person or anything… I mean my parents do it, and I know a lot of other nice people who do it… I just think its a bad and gross habit. Kind of like how you might not be able to date someone who constantly chewed with their mouth open, because it disgusted you. Only chewing with your mouth open won’t have a chance of giving you cancer… but not the point. ;P</p>

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<p>“Wanna know why people smoke at bars, and other social scenes? It’s because they want to look SOPHISTICATED! Yeah, that’s right, smoking is classy, whether you agree with it or not.”</p>

<p>-That’s not making an argument for smoking, that’s you being an ******* stating your opinion, which is a pretty stupid one at that.-</p>

<p>-Wanna know something else? The anti-smoking ads, and such are put out by the EXACT same people who run the tobacco corporations. It’s how they advertise. If you don’t want people to smoke, don’t talk about it.-</p>

<p>-They’re being forced to pay for them by people who have common sense and want to do something good. You somehow turn this into a lame excuse for why people shouldn’t harass you-</p>

<p>“I was brought up with smokers. My parents did it, my Grandparents still do it, and my family owned a tobacco farm.”</p>

<p>-The Confederacy called, they want their lame excuse for slavery back.-</p>

<p>“and now smokers are saying they smoke because nonsmokers are giving them grief? yeah, right”
Comments like this are not going to help.</p>

<p>-Yes they are, you’re just too stupid to listen.-</p>

<p>So by shunning me, you are fueling my craving for cigarettes.</p>

<p>-Quit trying to blame and guilt trip other people. It’s your own damn fault, and if you’re dumb to know any better and are willing to continue with a habit that does nothing but decrease your health and make you repulsive, don’t be surprised that people don’t want you around.-</p>

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<p>Dilksy…abrasive, but brilliant, im with u.</p>

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<p>I would so date a smoker if we clicked. I smoke too…I am somewhat of a social smoker but still…absolutely no problem with it. I have a friend who made her ex quit smoking for her…yea didn’t exactly work out…they are not together anymore…don’t change for other people…if you want to quit for yourself and your health then do it.</p>

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<p>what in the world is a “social smoker”? explain that euphemism to me</p>

<p>gee maybe the smoker would rather smoke than be with the person they supposedly love</p>

<p>you can try and justify smoking anyway you want- first its cool, classy, addiction, family, social, whatever, or stress from us nonsmokers</p>

<p>most people don’t smoke, most smokers want to quit and have tried, smoking changes the cells in the body, so that when you AREN"T smoking, you get stressed, the smoking only “relieves” the stress by feeding the addiction</p>

<p>amazing that the country is filled with nonsmoking classy smart stressfree people who get through the day without puttig toxins into their bodies to get through life</p>

<p>how do we do it</p>

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<p>I guess I’m the minority with panda<em>chibi, but I’d date a smoker. Actually, every guy I’ve ever dated has been a smoker (not that I’ve dated that many guys, 3, but they all smoked). My ex-roommate and good friend Danielle smokes, my dad smokes, ALOT of my friends smoke cigars if they don’t smoke cigarettes… I really don’t mind the smell, to be honest. I used to not like it, but I guess I got used to it. I’m one of those weird kids with panda</em>chibi, I like the smell of smoke, gas, and sharpies too. Oh, and white-out, white-out has a great smell. (no I don’t huff things) As long as you don’t expect me to smoke, and don’t blow smoke in my face, I really don’t care. I’ve never gotten the “kissing an ashtray” thing: I think people that say that must not have ever actually kissed a smoker before…</p>

<p>How smoking can be a serious turn-on, for those who don’t think there is such a thing: Just watch Johnny Depp smoking. It’s quite possibly the sexiest thing in the world.</p>

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<p>My biggest problem with smoking besides the fact that it affects people besides you-whether you are willing to admit it or not-is that it’s a huge waste of money. The averge cost of a carton is between $30-$40; there are many, many, many other ways to use that money that actually make sense.</p>

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<p>Ok, I’ll tell you what I understand by social smoker and why I label myself this. I started smoking in my native country in Europe. Every time me and friends went out for coffee, everyone around me smoked. I never minded the smell; actually, I enjoy it very much. I started smoking only when I was at the cafe or at a club. Never at home. To this date, I do not have cravings to smoke when I am at home. I do have those cravings when I am at starbucks (you see…starbucks is the only thing for me and my friends here in my town that reminds me of old times in good old Europe). When I am at school, at the gym, at the beach, etc., and no one is smoking…I don’t have the desire or need to smoke. But whenever I sit somewhere with a drink or just plain coffee at starbucks I seem to get nostalgic for the past and need that cigarette between my fingers. So, this is why I label myself a social smoker because I only smoke in social settings…and more specifically, settings that remind me of my past. Today I smoked 2 cigarrettes…one was at Starbucks with a friend who smoked 3 and one was during my work break because there were 7 people smoking around me. </p>

<p>AUlostchick…similarly, I have only dated guys who smoke and coming from a country where pretty much every young person smoked, I can’t imagine having to deal with a nonsmoker and if he would like me to quit. I do agree that smoking can be sexy…Gosh, it’s amazing to smoke a cig after intense sexual intercourse. And believe it or not it can be a great emotional experience for two people to cuddle, talk and share a cig together. People are different…that’s all.</p>

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<p>im a guy and i wouldnt date a girl that smoked. nor a guy either for that matter, but thats because i would never date a guy.</p>

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<p>I met several guys this past year that were really attractive and had great personalities…but then I found out that they smoked. </p>

<p>I wouldn’t say I’d never date someone that smokes, but considering how quickly I lost interest in those guys…it’s highly unlikely that I would.</p>

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<p>Ok Dildo,
you made your point…
Now it’s time to calm down.</p>

<p>I guess it makes you feel bigger about yourself to shun those different from you…</p>

<p>But I asked for your opinions and I got them.
I now know that you are all stupid enough to believe whatever TV tells you.
Pretty soon they’ll be doing this for alchohol.</p>

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<p>I appreciate people giving their opinions.
But I didn’t post this to get *****ed out about my smoking.
If you would date a smoker tell me, If you won’t, that’s fine too.
It’s just pathetic that some people feel they have to take their agressions out on someone on an online forum…
Find Help soon…</p>

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<p>I’m a guy. I’d never date a girl who smoked. Totally turns me off–the smell gives me a headache and also I would never want to die of second-hand smoke.</p>

<p>I have a bunch of co-workers, all women, who smoke. I put signs that say “bad for yinz” on their ciggy boxes sometimes.</p>

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<p>I started a year ago, and I finally came to the conclusion that it’s not worth the trouble (for me personally). I am quitting and it does help that I am back home for the summer…</p>

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<p>there are several reasons I wouldn’t date a guy that smoked

  1. the whole smelly, bad teeth thing. kissing a guy that smokes? ugh.
  2. the $$. I’d much rather you spent it on me :stuck_out_tongue:
  3. the fact that if I fell in love with someone that smoked, I’d know that he was probably going to die relatively young. that would suck.</p>
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<p>LOL @ these responses. There’s plenty of women out there who date guys who smoke. SMOKERS FOR LIFE. What’s your cigarette of choice?</p>

<p>(turkish gold for me!)</p>

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<p>I swore I’d never date a guy that smoked, and then a good guy came along who just happened to be a smoker, and I did anyway. Looking back on it, I can’t believe I put up with the smell, the taste, and him running outside so frequently for so long. </p>

<p>I broke it off eventually, because he had self esteem issues that I just couldn’t deal with anymore. Interestingly enough, low self-esteem was why he’d started smoking in the first place. Smoking wasn’t the reason for the end of the relationship, but it was something we fought over. </p>

<p>The OP seems to think that a lot of people get “brainwashed” by the ads into hating all smokers. I recognize that attitude, I saw it in my ex when we talked about smoking. I will concede that smokers are not inherently “bad” people. Most of them are addicted people, though, and there’s always an element of unhealthiness in addiction. I’ve dated a smoker, and I’m never going to date another one. It’s a personal choice, just like smoking is. You choose to smoke, every time you light up, for whatever reason you do it. I have just as much free will to choose not to date smokers. It’s a smarter choice for my emotional and physical health.</p>