<p>I agree with most of you. This is what I’ve been telling my parents: let my brother and I take loans out for med-school. But they refuse. They refuse to let us be hindered by loans in such an early state of our career. This is of course, their prerogative (not that I’m not very grateful for their desire to be involved) </p>
<p>I’ve also asked them, isn’t 40k a lot to live on? But they say, if they were to live on 40k/yr, they’d have to lower their standard of living. I’m not really sure how much money goes into maintaining this “standard of living,” but from the way they talk, it seems like it costs more than 40k /year. </p>
<p>And, even if it doesn’t, my dad really wants to save for retirement. He’s almost 60, and is probably going to retire in the next decade or so. </p>
<p>I suppose if we all took out loans (me and my brother, that is), I’m sure my dad could save money for my younger brother’s education and for his retirement, and still maintain our status quo. </p>
<p>But he doesn’t want us to take out loans…he truly wants to avoid this. </p>
<p>So the option is - and this is the only option for him - that I don’t go to a 50k/yr school.</p>
<p>I’m really trying to convince him otherwise, but he always starts talking about money-issues in a way that always makes me feel like I’ll be placing a huge strain on them If I do in fact attend Cornell.</p>
<p>Sakky - about the car issue: my parents bought two, brand new Toyotas last year. After nearly two decades without owning a car or a house (we lived in a different country), I think they’re entitled to something a bit luxurious. So the car payment is making a dent. </p>
<p>Again, I know this is a bit stupid. If they want me to go to a 50k school and send my bro to med-school without loans, we should minimize the “luxuriousness” of our lifestyle. </p>
<p>But I know that they don’t want to do this (well, its only been a 2 years that we’ve been living this way) - they really feel that they’ve worked hard to reach this point and deserve it. </p>
<p>It’s stupid, because I feel that right now it’s either me or them.</p>