I really like your emphasis on living the life with hustle, gigs, and teaching versus the “got a record deal and headed to LA dream come true story.”
For composers it is a bit tough because one needs enough success to get performed.
I have noticed that some festivals and residencies allow spouse and children, but there still seem to be more obstacles for mothers versus fathers.
Our kids are aware of the issues at least, in ways that my generation wasn’t. I will admit, however, that we have joked about a very outdated strategy for female artists: marry money!!! Or find a royal patron!!!