@bridgenail , I’m definitely one of those picky people! Starbuck’s is thriving pretty much because of me. 
I must be weird (or I must have really hated where I was when I was in h.s.)–I loved college from Day 1. Of course, there definitely WERE some difficult periods along the way, but I was SO glad to be there. That, I guess, is what blinded me to my son’s anxiety (and I feel really stupid about that now). I actually told him–once I figured out what was going on–that no one is requiring him to go to college. He gets to start making his own decisions now. He’s coming from a school where he’s kind of been told what to think a lot (I kept trying to counteract that), so relative autonomy is going to take some getting used to. I know that beneath his current fears he’s really happy (and maybe a little surprised?) that he was accepted and that he can now pursue what he loves and what he’s good at. But right now I’m TRYING to give him a little breathing-room about it. Trying…