<p>I guess Ive lived in a small town too long but I understand Jenny Sanfords need to tell her story and get it out first. Someone was going to write a book and hit the talk show circuit. Its just too juicy of a story and there are too many aides, drivers, housekeepers, campaign workers and the like, waiting for their official service to the governor to end. Jenny has put her account of events out there, now anyone with a different recollection will have to work harder to present their facts. She has been able to keep the primary focus on him and her not the boys.</p>
<p>Does spending a week or two doing book signings and interviews make Jenny a bad parent? The boys do have another parent .</p>
<p>The difference between these women and most of us is that they were publicly humiliated. They are not the first person in the marriage who hung out the dirty laundry in front of the neighbors. I think if a man humiliates his wife on a national level, he deserves what he gets. I understand the points about the kids, but I think it’s important for both young boys and girls to see that there are consequences to actions. In some ways, this is better than if she was holed up in her bedroom drinking away her pain.</p>
<p>There is also the issue of finances. Elizabeth Edwards doesn’t need the money, but I’m sure Jenny Sanford would like to be independent. What else is she going to do to be sure her family is secure? She is obviously really missing those inmates who gave her labs baths and grew lovely roses. She will have to hire them now.</p>
<p>That’s not very fair, cartera. The inmates who apparently work at the governor’s mansion are one of the perks of the governor and his family’s position. And Jenny Sanford is from a very wealthy family–inventors of Skil saws. I don’t think she needs the money.</p>
<p>And Jenny Sanford wouldn’t just like to be independent. She now IS independent. She said in one interview that she was sure she would be working in some way as soon as her family is more settled.</p>
<p>Cut the woman some slack–she’s been publicly humiliated but is holding her head high and going on with her life. That’s a huge accomplishment.</p>
<p>Just because there is family money doesn’t mean that a woman doesn’t like to earn her own. I don’t see anything wrong with the money being appealing to her. If it’s irrelevant, I suspect she’ll donate it to a charity. </p>
<p>The conversation about the inmates was a bit bizarre and didn’t put her in the best light. It was just awkward and she lamented not having them just a little too long.</p>
<p>I guess that’s a rich / poor culture shock thing, cartera. Most people aren’t used to having servants, so the idea of not having them isn’t especially surprising or discomfiting. For someone who probably grew up with them (since her family’s wealthy), she’s naturally a little uncomfortable with having to completely give them up. But Mrs. Sanford seems like a strong woman; she’ll probably get over it in due time.</p>
<p>Sorry, I didn’t hear the part in her interview about missing the help of the inmates. That is a little elitist to mention in that way, really. </p>
<p>I looked at her book today at Costco, didn’t buy it because she seemed to have covered most of it in the interviews I saw. But her wedding photo in the book–she was wearing white gloves! In 1989. I was married that year as well, and I can’t imagine anyone wearing white gloves as a bride by then. It really looked very 50s.</p>
<p>Why wouldn’t she still be in the hospital, the day after the son’s birth? </p>
<p>Anyway, I had my tubes tied as an outpatient, and my spouse was there, but honestly, you don’t really need “support.” You could drive there yourself and check yourself in. You just need someone to pick you up at the back end when you can’t drive, and ensure you get home safely. Sorry, I don’t think this is evidence of bad behavior in a spouse.</p>
<p>You have to look at the totality of circumstances. On their own, most of the things that her husband did aren’t that awful (Except for this last thing). But if you put them all together, it creates a pattern of misconduct that justifies her annoyance.</p>