I’m not arguing. I’m trying to understand what point you think you are making.
And what differences should I be perceiving- the racial composition of the surrounding neighborhood? Relative rates of poverty in Baltimore vs. Metro Boston? And why would you challenge me on whether or not I’ve been to both campuses?
There are dangerous things that happen on every college campus in America. You need to help your child learn behaviors which make them less likely to become a victim of a crime. I know young women who were raped at frat parties- it is not alarmist to tell your kids NOT to drink anything at a party that doesn’t come out of a closed container. You don’t know who has put a drug in your mixed drink, or who put something vile in the open punch bowl. It is not alarmist to tell your kids NOT to keep the back door to their dorm propped open with a brick or rock because they have a friend coming over who isn’t a student and doesn’t have an ID- swipe in procedures are there to protect the students. It is not alarmist to teach your kids to take the van home from the library at midnight if they don’t have classmates to walk with, or to leave the fancy jewelry or expensive sunglasses at home.
But it is alarmist to conclude that your kid will be safer at Tufts than at Yale, Penn, JHU or other urban campuses. Or that your kid will be safer at U Mass or U Conn (out in the boonies) than at BU. That’s delusional. Bad things happen in Storrs too…