<p>I beleive it is chemical.
I received intermuscular hormones while I was pregnant in an effort to prevent labor. I knew at that time, that the hormones affected females more than males, while when I found out I was pregnant I felt I was carrying a girl, by the time I needed the shots I had convinced myself I was carrying a boy, as males were less affected.
I had convinced myself so much, that by the time I delivered at 30 weeks, I didn’t even have a girls name picked out.
She is every way a very traditional girl, pink purple at appropriate ages, I gave her matchbox cars, she put skirts on them and made them houses. She loves kids and has worked with them ever since she was 12. The only indication I ever had that she was not perhaps like other girls was that she never had crushes on singers or actors. But I didn’t miss her not being boycrazy, I thought it was great, I saw some girls just turn into complete ditzes when a male came around, I liked that my daughter had friends that were boys and they just seemed to be good friends.
She came out to me when she was in 11th grade ( yes it took that long I was pretty clueless and she stayed pretty busy with her volunteer work and school activities)
I was flabbergasted, but my husband wasn’t surprised at all.
I can accept that perhaps she will never have a child, I can accept that I will never have a son in law , but I cannot accept that a very vocal minority is doing its dammedest to insure that she may still be discriminated against in the job /housing market because she is a lesbian, they want to keep her from being able to legally make a commitment to someone she loves, and they want to prevent her from being considered part of her partners family, even if she is bonded with her for 20 yrs+
This I will not accept.</p>
<p>Contrast my oldest daughter with my youngest
Where my oldest was a happy go lucky child always with a smile on her face, my youngest was surly. Didn’t want to be held, hated clothes, wore a dress a couple times before she was two and not again till she was in middle school.
Played with trucks, chopped off her hair over and over again so that I couldn’t brush it, wore the same boys shorts all year in 3rd grade, wore the same leggings all year in 4th grade- but never pink or purple.
This lasted so long that when she requested a pink bikini this year at age 15, I was shocked.
She has always liked boys, from a crush in kindergarten to the requisite LOTR hobbity & elf boys, she is definitely hetero.
However she was term, samehousehold, but no hormones in utero.
How can one of my kids be denied the right to find a life partner in some peoples eyes, but the other one not?</p>
<p>I don’t believe it is moral or ethical to decide who another adult is permitted to love or live with , or raise a child with.</p>
<p>Where has it been said otherwise? No one seems to have said any such thing, doubly so as regards loving or living with anyone. It is the sexual component that makes it different, as it often does. </p>
<p>The issue is whether or not the mother given custody of a child can teach that child there moral and traditional beliefs, whether we currently find those beliefs to be bigoted or not (let it be said that this is a very negative characterization of a traditional and multi-cultural moral judgment
doesnt make it right, but it should give some pause as there are many sexual acts that we now consider either immoral or illegal and in so doing do not view that judgment as bigoted).</p>
<p>I beleive that sexual orientation is not a choice</p>
<p>I have no expertise in this field, other than a cousin and step-sister who are both living in gay relationships and who I have great respect and admiration for; however, it does seem pretty clear that it was a choice for Dr Clark (unless we know her better than she knows herself).</p>
<p>I think love is the strongest bond we have</p>
<p>and so it is, yet, as I previously stated, sex is not a necessary condition of love
I think. There are many who love each other who either cannot (morally or biologically) or do not have a sexual relationship with individuals they love (based on taboo and legality; for instance, parents do not engage in sexual congress with there ADULT children (why not?), even in cases where they were not the responsible parent in raising them–adoption etc. [even further, consider Woody Allen and Sun Ye Previns relationship which is roundly condemned, most particularly by Mia Farrow] and again, maybe society will evolve in these senses also).</p>
<p>The issue is not whether there will be gay marriage or whether or not there should be gay adoption, but whether a parent has a natural right to teach their children their beliefs and whether the court is given to decide which beliefs are acceptable: thats giving up a very big human right to big brother
I think.</p>
<p>We have received only a snippet of the case - the end. What were the issues? Did the children have problems found by the social worker (or psychologist) that affected them adversely because of this? Was there an issue between the parents? I have never seen a judge on his/her own volition in an uncontested divorce or custody case just decide to do something like this. It is easy to say this was a bad decision. On the face of it it would seem so. However, there has to be a lot more that went into this that we don’t know about.</p>
<p>It sounds like the appeals court made the original judge clarify what he meant.
I believe it was contested somewhat because the “psychological parent” was given shared custody but the legal parent wanted all decision making to be hers.
I haven’t found any later ruling.
It doesn’t appear that anyone had found harm, more than they were afraid that there might be harm, but the appeal court ruled they would intervene only if there were actually problems, not if they were worried about problems that hadn’t necessarily occured yet</p>