My DD feels the same way- worked so hard so many years, taken so many AP classes, made sacrifices to maintain strong stats and involved in EC activities which she loves. She will be disappointed if results do not turn out the way she was hoping. It also doesn’t help that the teachers and friends at school also expect her to go to a top school and other people telling her she’s too good for this school and that- which is very frustrating. We keep trying to remind her that regardless of the results- it’s not based on self worth or that she wasn’t good enough. She just had a lot of things stacked against her- her race, school county, income level, parents have an education etc. I really think it’s dangerous when parents and kids who have gotten into these top schools to say “she or he deserved it”- many kids “deserve it” but just don’t meet the schools policies of URM, low income, first gen, etc. Good luck - what’s imp is that you make the most out of your college experience where ever you go and be successful where you are- that will go very far in life. I work in a career where everyone comes from very diverse college backgrounds, some got a degree from an online school, some went to Ivies, some to flagship state schools, and some to schools I’ve never heard of- but we all work together and make the same amount. You can be successful no matter what school you choose to go but be proactive and continue to take initiative when you attend the college you choose.
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