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<p>Hey, there’s NOTHING wrong with a little griping! It is simply a parent’s OBLIGATION to do that from time to time! <em>lol</em></p>
<p>I actually really love it when someone who is NOT me can give me some perspective on my kids because as parents, sometimes we fail to see the many positives for the few negatives, particularly if the negatives are “buzz issues” for us. </p>
<p>For example, my oldest D, who is MOST extraordinary in many, many ways, COMPLETELY lacks the intellectual drive and motivation of her older brother. She is bright–VERY bright, but so very content with other things in her life. She does well in school, but <em>I</em> know that with more drive and commitment, she could perform SO much better. But it is just not HER. She is more ethereal, more emotionally driven, more content with the spiritual than the material. So, I have made the conscious choice to NOT badger her about the academics, instead choosing to let her follow her own path. It’s not that I don’t want her to excel like her brother…it’s more that I realize the price my pushing her would cost in terms of our relationship and have made the conscious decision that it’s simply not worth it. </p>
<p>It has been especially nice to hear these things about my daughter from people here because lately, I have been lamenting the fact that I will most likely NOT be able to put all of my newfound “college knowledge” to use for her…she wishes to stay close to home (she and I are closer than close) for school, and that has required a new focus for me and some relinquishing of hopes and dreams for her college experience. But for HER, this is the “right” thing, and in the end, that is all that matters.</p>
<p>As usual, I have rambled a bit, but my point is that though your son’s spendthrift ways may make you a bit crazy (and cause some family strife <em>lol</em>), I am sure that he has so many other qualities that you value and appreciate and that make him a most fabulous son! :)</p>
<p>~berurah</p>