kid not interested in college visits - should I insist?

You could visit once she has her acceptances and ideas which schools are the most budget-friendly. My daughter applied to schools on both coasts and 2 schools in the middle… I sure as heck wasn’t going to be paying for travel from Seattle /Eugene to Madison WI to Boston if she didn’t get in with decent FA. As it turned out, we didn’t need to make the Wisconsin/Washington State/Oregon trip. Boston won with the best price offer, and by then she’d sort of lost interest in the other 3.