@OHMomof2 yes, I bet that helped a lot.
@AlmostThere2018 I don’t know but I know all my friends who became scientists suffered a lot. It’s probably depends on the field but funding seems to be scarce and post doc life can go on forever. I had an acquaintance on their 10th postdoc - no actual job in sight. They ended up adjuncting at CC. I don’t think it’s about not doing it, more about being realistic about that “it” is, KWIM?