<p>This actually reminds me of something one of my colleagues (who is an immigrant from S. Korea) told us.</p>
<p>We were once casually talking about whether it is “fair” to expect an employee to join “after-work (drinking or not) events” among coworkers frequently. Doing so frequently essentially lengthens the time an employee works for the company each day. He told us that, back in his home country, if a husband does not want to go to such events or works long hours often, his wife may even be upset and will encourage him to join such events ( so “work” long hours) instead of coming home early. This is especially true if he works for a “well-respected” company (those few “God’s places”.)</p>
<p>KatCh614, I think what you share with us is likely true. This may be applicable to DS. But even if he is fully aware of this, I am not sure whether he is able to overcome this, considering the career path he is going into. I really do not know how to “help him.” But thanks for sharing this with us. When nine family members chose this path, it likely carries some siginificance.</p>