I have one son who is in a fraternity (not at Lehigh) and another son who is a current applicant to Lehigh, so I am sympathetic to the benefits of Greek Life when it is run well. However, I don’t think using future foreign competition as tryingtofigureitout did is a good argument for allowing hazing and poor behavior. Students from other countries (particularly Asian) flourish because they study hard, have very involved parents, and strong social structures. Not because they are partying and hazing one another.
Students who want to be future leaders should not be supportive of activities that include having sex with Uber drivers, which I read the Lehigh sorority members had as one task on their infamous list. A mentally tough kid (Alpha), in my opinion, says no to dumb, risky behavior and focuses on succeeding in their studies. They also don’t refer to fellow classmates as “skanks”. Instead, they work to improve their community.
The administration at my older son’s university works closely with the Greek community, so I know that an appropriate balance can be achieved. However, if my younger son does get into Lehigh, I would probably discourage him from Greek Life. He wants to go there for engineering and Greek Life there sounds far too distracting.
One more point regarding building our future leaders - any evidence of risky Greek behavior (lists, photos, lawsuits) can be used against individuals in later years.