Can’t really know where your daughter will get good merit aid without knowing her gpa, class rank, and standardized test scores, etc.
SUNY and U of Maine both have flagship tuition match programs in which they will charge the same tuition + fees that you would pay at Rutgers. In addition SUNY Geneseo, Cartland, and Oneonta all have generous discounts for out of state students as do previously mentioned Connecticut state college campuses (except for UConn) and Rhode Island College in Providence, some of which are less than Rutgers tuition.