<p>Hmm…I’ve done some googling. It looks like illegal aliens can get married some places in the US,but not in others.</p>
<p>“Marrying a US citizen–and in many cases, a green card holder–enables you to stay here.”</p>
<p>This is a widely believed myth. If you are in the U.S. illegally, marrying a citizen does not change your status, or even automatically qualify you to apply to change your status. Marrying a citizen works if you’re here, say, on a student visa that’s about to expire. But depending on how you came in and what you’ve done while you’re here, marrying a citizen may do nothing at all to transform you into a legal resident.</p>
<p>I have a very Christian and self-described very conservative friend who says he can’t for the life of him understand why gays shouldn’t be allowed to marry. He’s fond of joking that gays “should have to suffer just like the rest of us,” but his serious argument is that forbidding gays from marrying the ones they love is the same as judging them, and you know what Jesus said about judging others. Interesting guy, my friend. I wonder how many conservative Christians believe the same but are afraid to say so. A lot of churches, and most where I live, have a nasty habit of ostracizing people who speak out on issues like this.</p>
<p>My mother used to go for extended visits to see my sister abroad, and she’d leave a list of “approved” women for my father to hang out with while she was gone. Can you believe it? They were madly in love for forty years until he died, and there was no hanky panky with these women as far as I know, but he was very social and couldn’t stand being alone. He’d socialise with men friends, too, but there was this list! The women on it weren’t the ones who were the flirting ones at dinner parties, more like pals that my parents have known since basically childhood.</p>