It’s not about personality types but what one does/has done. That comes from the attributes. You have the vision and can climb out of the narrow hs box/hs thinking or not. You stretch or not. You impact others or not. You’re open to new experiences or not.
Many on CC claim it’s a crapshoot. Posters also say just to be who you are. But that’s not matching yourself to what they look for. It’s not pretending to be something you aren’t. It’s about being what they look for. Or your chances go down. Showing it. All along, not just in a essay where you proclaim or look for some fuzzy example.
I’m surprised we repeatedly call this bending oneself or faking. You either are or are not the sort they seek. Imo, it’s useless to advise kids to lean back, when top colleges want to see energy and willingness, among other things. You don’t need to cure cancer (not what they look for,) captain the team, collect titles, show great ambitions, etc. You do need to be activated in the right ways. Or revise your expectations.
Same as wanting some job. You match or you don’t. You get the experiences they want.