So not wanting small and not wanting rural - is a great start. Bye bye LACs 
Wherever you live, say mom - let’s go take a walk - and find - over a weekend - a nice hike and visit a campus nearby - or hike the campus. Doesn’t have to be one on your list - can be any - just to get a sense.
And different campuses feel different - for example, to my daughter, Denison (small school and not for you) but it seemed huge. She goes to a bigger population school - yet a much smaller campus…it’s more “compact, urban” - so go visit a traditional campus, a city campus if one is nearby, etc - just to get a sense.
You’re doing great…