Budget is most students’ primary constraint on what colleges will be attainable. You and your parents will want to run the net price calculator on each college of interest to see whether it will be affordable after financial aid.
If you are concerned about state laws and policies, Movement Advancement Project | Snapshot: LGBTQ Equality by State can be helpful. Note that it allows you to look specifically at sexual orientation (most relevant to LGB) or gender identity (most relevant to T), as well as specific types of laws and policies.
For architecture, are you looking for a 5-year BArch program (you can search for them at School Search - NAAB Website ) or a BA/BS program which may shorten the length of time needed for an MArch degree afterward?