I would strongly encourage you to stop thinking in terms of “lowering expectations”. That strategy is a risky one on so many levels.
We had a rule with all our kids- they had to find something to love about each and every college we visited (or explored in depth online). It could be something trivial- the ice cream at the campus snack bar which allowed unlimited add-ons. Or it could be something meaningful- the college subsidized non-profit internships over the summer so that kids who needed the money wouldn’t be penalized for not working at JP Morgan or Google.
But it had to be something to love-- and we kept reminding the kids of that every time the upper lip quavered and the dialogue seemed to be going towards 'If I don’t get into X college maybe I shouldn’t go at all".
The trick is NOT to lower expectations. The trick is to recognize that you only attend one college at a time, and every college probably has something superior to another- if you only look for it.
Heck, one of my kids “safety schools” kept getting awards for its food. “Best vegan food options”. “Best college for kids with food allergies”. “Best salad bar in America”. “Best Sunday brunch”- even folks in town show up and pay at the door for the waffles. So if the kid is catastrophizing “Maybe I’ll only get into my safety school” you get to say “So you’ll eat your way through four years of college- is that so bad?” and everyone laughs.
Shift your thinking. She doesn’t need to lower her expectations- but she does need to learn about another dozen/15 colleges which will be affordable and easy admits for her-- and then find something to love!
Have you looked at URI?