So with all of ours including S24 we we’re in a similar boat with good stats (yours are better) and trying to find merit. Schools above are all good, primarily-public options.
I know you said no theology but, If you want to look at privates in the northeast, think about the Catholic city schools which are medium sized, not big Greek schools, in or near big cities, and offer serious merit. Most are ‘Catholic-lite’ meaning you can usually stay out of most of the religious stuff. I wouldn’t rule out the Catholic schools. A real benefit to these Catholic schools in the cities is that they’re adjacent to internships for business and Econ and finance and often have decent business schools Plus, they are primarily liberal arts colleges so you get that broadening. Think about it - You would probably attend Georgetown or Fordham if you got in, right ? well they’re just as Catholic. There are also a few other public’s (UDel, Mason) and stray LACs (Marist, Clark)
This was part of our list this year with actual merit awards and resulting cost. We are also full pay. Can’t get to $25k but can get to $30-40k which may be in play with the (mostly) subsidized federal loans. Your stats might get even more aid at Clark Marist and UDel. Clark is on the smaller side of this list 3k students). Rest are larger. Some schools like Seton Hall kept sending us more merit up until May to sweeten the pot so the initial offer was lower and grew.
Manhattan Coll (NY) $39k merit = $30k net
George Mason (VA) $18k merit = $35 net
St Joe’s Univ (PHL) $31 merit = $36k net
Seton Hall Univ (NJ) $30k merit = $38k net
LoyolaMaryland(MD) $34k merit = 41k net
Clark Univers. (MA) $31k merit = $40k net
Marist College (NY) $25k merit = $41k net
Univ Delaware (DE) $12k merit = $43k net
Another place to hunt/conpare merit is Road2College which crowd-sources people’s actual awards and scores for comparison.
I didn’t check LAX club/D3 teams but this area is the hotbed for LAX so I will assume some have options. Many are Div 1 so perhaps club.
This list also spans the spectrum of super liberal (Clark) to more conservative (Loyola, St Joes) and everything in between.