You are fortunate to have your NC public universities as possibilities.
I think the issue is going to be hitting a budget if <$30k. But it’s possible that could happen. SUNY colleges could be an option…if she gets some merit aid. I am not all that familiar with which ones beside Geneseo give merit aid. Someone else can chime in.
I know Furman does not check all the boxes…and I’m not sure you can get to your price point…but maybe that’s an option. Another to check is Loyola Maryland. Again cost could be a factor. I think Skidmore would be good, as well as Connecticut College, but I’m not sure either can come in at your price point. They don’t give a lot of merit aid.
Because of your multiple kids in college…you would be well served to look where your student can get significant merit aid. @tsbna44 any ideas?